If you have split up with a girl which you have liked & she disappeared on you... move on like a man. You were the problem, not them... you created an air of zero attraction around you. You need to learn the right way. Guys, lets face it... men think women are from another planet... this is because most guys don't know how to tune into what turns women on...
Attraction:
Attraction begins in the mind. Let me tell you, your physical beauty is just the initial "pull" you guys have towards each other... I've seen many good looking guys screw up their chance by their nervous body reactions & the way they talk to a woman. Your mind & they way you carry yourself... is by far the most attractive assets that you have in your arsenal. What you are thinking is emitted into your immediate surroundings so when you walk into bars give off the air of being happy & secure with yourself. Don't look at anyone when you enter the room, just chat happily with your friends & make sure you are walking upright but relaxed. In life there is a flux that pervades everything... it's the balance that keeps the universe evenly poised... When you are not observing anyone, you become the observed. When you see a beautiful woman enter into a bar... she is strutting her fine self & not looking at a soul in the place...why? Because she is the one that is being observed & not doing the observing...that is for others. Know this well. Ye who is pursued, retreats & ye who retreats is pursued! Know this well.
A loud mouth in the bar is an insecure moron that wants attention... he needs a hug & preferably from his mother. This is not how to create attraction. This is false confidence... A skilled warrior is not quick to wield his sword. A confident person has nothing to prove, yet old loud mouth is trying to prove to everyone how confident he is. He's not, he's insecure.
When you eventually get a seat, sit comfortably & if you see a woman that you like the look of position your body towards her. When you go up to get the next round of drinks, don't look at her, look the other way, before glancing at her... when she looks at you, smile at her. Not a goofy ass smile, I nice warm polite smile. You don't know each other so keep it polite. When she smiles back (this is a massive indication that she wont be creeped out if you go up to her.) Do your own deductions... would you smile @ someone that you are unattracted to?
She already is receptive to you so now the ball is in your court. When you approach her, keep it light & fluffy. No lame ass chit chat like; do you come around here often etc... this is frankly retarded, who cares anyway?! Say something say that you noticed her & you had to come to say hello. Introduce yourself...ask her what her name is ... then Tell her that you'd like to know her more but you can't right now because it's your friends birthday & you'll come back to talk to her. Walk away... yes walk away! Leave it at that. Remember the flux, ye who retreats gets pursued?! You have pursued her but then retreated. Too much pursuing of a woman & the attraction dies. She will remember a lovely interaction with you & she will be waiting for you to come back... she will be thinking of you. You will be just out of her reach. You're in sight but she can't have you. You are there yet unavailable. Diamonds are drip fed to the market to retain it's value! If something is easily available, your in the same bracket as trash.
Guys, this is a game called romance. It's invigorating. It's what we are meant to be doing. Our male species have evolved through the millenia by knowing how to attract women. They played the game of romance & they played it well. When you are attracting a woman, you also feel attraction for her. It's a great feeling, but we must temper it guys. Extra strong never lasts long.
Turn offs:
- Literally blowing up the poor woman's phone - Use your discretion but don't txt a girl a million times. Even if she is keen, keep it light & playful but end the conversation. Remember the flux? Ye who retreats will be pursued.
- Being needy - Too much pursuing. If you really like a girl, tell yourself to hang back. It's for your own sake & you will avoid suffocating the poor girl. Give her some space & you need it too. Security is a mans best trait.
- Making a woman feel bad about herself. If you have something to say, make sure its something positive. If a woman is fretting, be calm. If she is rude, just leave. Don't ever get drawn into negative arguments because it affects your mind state. Be the man, be calm show direction & be positive.
- Being indecisive - This is the plague that is about to wipe out modern man. I've seen a guy take 15 mins to decide what chicken to have @ KFC with his woman. Know what you want & go for it without fear. You don't need permission from anyone to have what you want.
- Being too available - do you like a Nissan or a Lamborghini? Which one has more in circulation? If you are too available you are saying to the woman that you are of no value. She will think, "I can do whatever I want because I know he will be there whenever I need some drinks or a meal."
- Don't think material possessions are a turn on - your possessions are for you & nobody else. You let the conversations happen naturally, show her you are a driven individual, that you're great company... be funny & happy. We only get one crack of the whip so why not do it with a smile on your face?
That's it for today's installment gents.
All the best
Brad
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